How important should physical attraction be when dating a girl?

How important should physical attraction be when dating a girlInteresting question! How important should physical attraction be when dating a girl? Hmm… Let me think. Uhh… Very important?!…  Well, maybe not.

I have been very fortunate in that I have dated many women over my lifetime and eventually found the right one for me.

In dating all these women there was one commonality between all the women that was inescapable!

Are you ready? Brace yourself!

The prettier the girl the more screwed up she was in the relationship! For me this has been the one thing that always been a constant. The prettier they are the more wacky and selfish they become!

As one of my ex-girlfriends stated to me when we first started dating (she was a model based out of Tokyo):

“truly beautiful women have too many options as far as men go”

This “too many options” thing does create problems for any relationship these women enter into, as the next guy who expresses interest may have a bigger wallet or better “offerings” than the guy she is with now.

Bye, Bye current boyfriend. Hello new boyfriend with the bigger wallet!

I can still remember the one time she and I went to the grocery store together and she walks down the aisle ahead of me as I reach for a jar of peanut butter.

The three guys who were in this particular isle shopping all turned their heads, all at the same time to ogle at her!!! It was funny… kind of interesting… and strange for me all at the same time.

Needless to say, upon one of her many trips back to Tokyo she ended up meeting a new guy and never returned to Honolulu. Such is life!

While physical attraction is very important to have the initial sparks fly very seldom does the physical attraction keep “ongoing” for either party!

Here’s what the Huffington Post had to say about the topic:

“the personality of a person makes them better looking. If a guy doesn’t look exactly how you want him to but his personality is amazing, you’re going to find him attractive no matter what. In the end, a relationship is about a strong emotional and physical attraction – with an emphasis on the emotional”

Even for me, I can’t count the number of women I have dated where upon after the first couple of weeks dating I would start to rapidly lose interest in them.

With their beauty no longer a hook for me, quite often the sex would not be enough – as the relationship was not built on common interest or shared experiences.

So, to answer the question: How important should physical attraction be when dating a girl? Very important, but only for the initial attraction!

If there is no substance to the reasons you are sharing time together then regardless of how beautiful she is one of you will lose interest fairly quickly.

Here is a video answering the question: Are looks are more importnat than personality? An answer different from mine.  Enjoy the video!


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